When we’re around a crowd of people that we can’t relate to, sometimes we try to change who we are in order to get those people to like us more. Sort of like what happened with Naruto and Sasuke.
But you don’t have to do that, because most of the time, people are going to be able to tell when you are being your true genuine self. And because of that, they will only dislike you more. And sometimes, they may even pick on you, which is what Sasuke sort of did to Naruto.
In the beginning of the show, Sasuke didn’t like Naruto from the start. It’s not because Naruto wasn’t talented, but it was because Naruto was trying to become something he wasn’t. He sensed that Naruto was being fake, and because of that he looked at him as a loser. Because in reality, Naruto was.
And Naruto did try his best to eventually relate to Sasuke. For example, during the first battle between Naruto and Sasuke in the Final Valley, Naruto tried to relate to Sasuke through both of their families being gone. However, it failed because it’s just not the same situation that they can both relate to, and because of that, Sasuke rejects Naruto.
The only moment where Naruto could finally relate to Sasuke was after Jiraiya died. Because Naruto could finally understand Sasuke’s need for revenge. And not only that, but he understood Sasuke even more after defeating Pain, and succeeding in getting his revenge. So once Naruto and Sauke fought again at the Konohagakure (the place where Sasuke defeated Danzo), Sasuke could finally gain respect for Naruto because he could finally relate to him.
And that’s all it really is, in order to gain respect from your bully, you have to be able to relate to them. Meaning that in order for them to be able to identify with you, you both have to have something deep inside that you both have in common. And one of the ways to figure that out is by simply asking them.
Now if they still deny you, that’s fine. You don’t have to pry knowledge out of them, but just understand that the reason why he may even be bullying you in the first place is because he looks down on you. So he probably can relate to you in some way, but it’s in the wrong way. You can’t make a fool of yourself or use that handicap you have to be weak. Instead, you have to use that to make you stronger.